Divorce, Mediation

Putting the Pain of 2022 Behind You: Insights From the Stoics

A divorce can be one of the biggest personal challenges we've ever faced. It can be painful, messy, humiliating, and...

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Divorce, Fresh Start

New Year, New You: Is Your Marriage Worth Saving in 2023?

As we head into the New Year and 2023, it's time for reflection, renewal, healing, and moving forward. But if you're...

Divorce, Fresh Start

Divorce After a Long Marriage: How to Rebuild Your Life

You stayed with your spouse far longer than you should have, but you've finally pulled the plug and gotten divorced....

Divorce, Mental Health

Why Do So Many People Get Divorced in January?

If you've been considering divorce, you may have heard January referred to as "Divorce Month" and wondered how much...

Divorce, Children

Dos and Don'ts for Giving Gifts to Your Kids Over the Holidays After Divorce

For many parents, the best part of the holiday season is watching their children's eyes light up as they tear into...

Divorce, Children

Calming Your Kids' Anxieties About Splitting Time Over the Holidays

The holidays are a time of wonder and excitement for children. While parents do their best to keep this season bright...

Divorce, Mental Health

Facing the Holidays Right After a Divorce or Separation

The holidays can be difficult for anyone, but they can be especially tough for people who have recently gone through a...

Divorce, Mental Health

3 Dynamics That Will Destroy a Relationship

{4:00 minutes to read} It is not unusual for married couples to develop unhealthy ways of settling disputes between...

Divorce, Children

How the Children React to Parental Alienation

In my recent radio interview with Charles Jamison, an expert in parental alienation, we discussed the affect parental...

Laws and Rights, Child Custody + Support

Court Order Allowing Out-of-State Parental Relocation Upheld on Appeal

In the decision of Karen Michelle F. v. Wilfredo C., the Appellate Division of the New York Supreme Court upheld a...

Finances, Common Questions and Answers

Ramifications of a High Net Worth Divorce with Inherited Wealth

The Source of Wealth in a High Net Worth Divorce: How This Can Complicate Your Divorce

Children, Family Mediation

Noting The End Of A Co-Parenting Relationship

When I got divorced well over a decade ago, my children were both under the age of ten. My youngest child of the...

Divorce, Conflict

The Secret Language of Couples: What Lies Beneath the Words?

{3:00 minutes to read}  Am I correct in understanding that this is what you meant?  vs.  Is THAT what you meant?! Even...

Divorce, Getting Help

Confused, Scared, and Under Pressure Is No Way to Divorce

{3:19 minutes to read} Toward the end of any negotiation, a flurry of activity swarms the lives of all the people...

Divorce, Children

Ruling Not Imputing Income to Mother for Child Support Upheld on Appeal

Under New York law, if parents voluntarily reduce their income in order to lessen or avoid a child support obligation,...

Parenting, Family Mediation

Mindful Co-Parenting: An Introduction

Divorce can cause a lot of sleepless nights. Worries about joint property and investments, co-owned businesses, not to...

Children, Family Mediation

3 Ways To Avoid Being An Evil Stepmother

What Fairy Tales Say Fairy Tales have taught us that stepmothers are harsh taskmasters and purveyors of poisoned...

Divorce, Common Questions and Answers

4 Questions to Determine if Mediation is Right for You

{2:51 minutes to read} The decision to divorce initiates a series of many challenging and difficult decisions, often...

Divorce, Getting Help

What Is Divorce Coaching And How Can It Help?

Harriet Lerner writes in The Dance of Connection, "Perhaps nothing leaves us more vulnerable than the threat of...

Mediation, Conflict

Protecting Yourself in Mediation with High-Conflict Spouse

Divorcing a high-conflict spouse understandably feels risky. You’re right to be nervous about entering the ring with...

Parenting, Family Mediation

Key Three of Mindful Co-Parenting after Divorce: Communicating Effectively

It’s no mystery that communication is critical to a happy relationship. In fact, lack of communication ranks third in...

Divorce, Collaborative Divorce

Stuart Webb: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce

More and more people are wondering, what is collaborative divorce? A simple Amazon search for books on “collaborative...

Collaborative Divorce, education

8 Advantages to Collaborative Divorce

I’ve posted before about the 6 Hallmarks of the Collaborative Process. Once you know what defines the process, it’s...

Children, Family Mediation

Kids Playing Favorites in Divorce

When Kids Are Playing Favorites in Divorce

Conflict, Collaborative Divorce

Conflict Resolution: Change Your Perspective

Find some objectivity in order to translate conflict into problem solving.

Collaborative Divorce

“Wait. You’re Divorced?” Divorced Couples Working Together

If you’re in the throes of a divorce, the idea of working with your ex may seem outrageous.

Divorce, Conflict

Surprise! People Using Ashley Madison Have No Intention of Divorcing

{2:10 minutes to read} As a divorce lawyer, I often hear people’s stories of infidelity, whether or not they are...

Mediation, Mental Health

Making Peace with Your Ex

What does it mean to make peace with your ex?  This is a tough question.  When people feel their ex-spouse betrayed...

Divorce, Collaborative Divorce

3 Reasons to Be Nice to Your Spouse During Your Divorce

{2:40 minutes to read} Reason #1: You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. 

Divorce, Dating and Romance

Post-Divorce Dating Profiles That Work

Getting Out There! Do’s and Don’ts of an Online Dating Profile With nearly 2,500 online dating sites in the US alone,...

Divorce, Children

Mothers & Daughters During Divorce: A Unique Relationship Put to the Test

The mother-daughter relationship is unique. There’s a special bond forged through a lifetime of advice, companionship,...

Divorce, Finances

Divorce When the Woman is the Breadwinner and the Homemaker

Does it Make a Difference if the Woman has the Money? It’s human nature to want to call money “yours” if you earned it....

Finances, Child Custody + Support

Calculating The Basic Child Support Obligation In New York, Part II

The purpose of this series of blog posts is to guide you through the basics of calculating child support in New York...

Collaborative Divorce, Mental Health

True Empathy: What Feeling Another’s Pain Requires

“Empathy” is a popular—and often misused—term. What people usually mean when they talk about “having empathy” is...

Collaborative Divorce, Mental Health

The Storm Out: What Is It, and Why Do We Do It?

Collaborative Divorce, Mental Health

The Storm Out: What to Do When It Happens

{2:00 minutes to read} In my previous article, I wrote about the dynamics of what happens when a person storms out of a...

Divorce, Parenting

Key Five of Mindful Co-Parenting after Divorce: Maintaining Boundaries

Have you ever exited the freeway onto a wide-open city street and had a hard time getting down to the speed limit? That...

Divorce, Mental Health

Divorce After An Affair

I frequently meet with new clients shortly after they or their spouse have revealed or discovered an affair. This is...

Finances, Child Custody + Support

Calculating "Add-On" Child Support in New York: Child Care Expenses

This blog post is fourth in a six-part series on child support in New York State. The purpose of this series of blog...

Finances, Child Custody + Support

Calculating Add-On Child Support In New York: Health-Related Expenses

This blog post is fifth in a six-part series on child support in New York State. The purpose of this series of blog...

Finances, Child Custody + Support

Calculating The Basic Child Support Obligation In New York, Part I

Most parents going through a separation or divorce, whether they're in mediation, Collaborative Law or in a court-based...

Finances, Child Custody + Support

Calculating “Add-On” Child Support In New York: Educational Expenses

This blog entry is the final post in a six-part series on child support in New York State. The purpose of this series...

Divorce, Conflict

Actions as Evidence: How Your Threats and Insults Can Cost you Custody

When Actions Become Evidence: Shifting Your Mindset in Divorce 

Divorce, Children

What is Parental Alienation, and What Are its Dangers?

Recently I spoke to Charlie Jamison on my radio show, Divorce Dialogues. Charlie is Board-certified attorney in Marital...

Divorce, Common Questions and Answers

We Are Thinking About Divorce, Can I Move Out?

Move Out in Divorce "My wife wants me to move out." We hear this sentence frequently. Often times the spouse saying it...

Divorce, Laws and Rights

Threats as Evidence in Divorce

The Right Way to Deal with Legal Threats in Divorce